A few years ago, a friend of mine lost her son-in-law due to suicide due to extreme depression over the loss of his wife to cancer. And then, shortly later, another friend shared with me that a friend of hers just lost her 32 year old son to suicide. Although I didn’t know either one of these young men personally, every time I hear of someone who has committed suicide….my heart truly breaks!
Years ago a friend called me one day and asked if I had seen her daughter (she was about 13 at the time). I said no, and she shared that her daughter had run away from home a few hours ago.
I was about 13 years old, and my sisters (twins) would have been about 9. My family lived in a high rise, called Tensa Terrace (Army housing) in Fort Myer, VA. It was about a week before Christmas and our aunt was visiting from Germany. One evening, we mentioned the residents were having a Christmas Door Decoration contest. Our aunt, Hannelore, who has always been extremely crafty, was excited and asked when it was being held. To her surprise, we told her the judging was taking place early the very next morning . Now mind you, this conversation happened about 7:00 in the evening and we hadn’t even considered being in the contest so our door was completely undecorated at that moment.
This post is dedicated to my grandson, Trevan, who turned 8 in June of 2017, as it was he that inspired me to create this gratitude game, called “The Thank You Game”. My husband and I, by nature, have always been optimistic people, and we feel like we passed this way of life on to our two wonderful children. It has always lead to many good things in our life and for that we are truly blessed and grateful. But in the past few years I have learned more about how to nurture this feeling and one of many things that I have found to be absolutely imperative for bringing more good into your life is to be consciously grateful for things which you already have.
Our lives are busy and there’s always those days when you feel like there just aren’t enough hours in a day. And the holidays are almost upon us, so it’s about to get worse! But do you seem to STAY overly worried about things left undone?
It’s a vicious cycle no matter which comes first, the stress or the sweets!
Here’s how it works:
You eat a high sugar food, or you get stressed, or you get emotional….causing you to…..
Deplete the existing B vitamins in your body!
And because you’re now deficient in B vitamins……
“I’m trying to quit smoking”…. a phrase we all hear left and right! I, personally, have never smoked, so I would have no idea how hard it is to quit, but I heard it said once “it’s easy to quit….the hard part is not starting again!” 😉 I think as long as someone has a strong enough determination or “Why” to make it happen, they can do it! It won’t be easy, but it’s definitely possible. My mother is a prime example of that. She started smoking at about the age of 16 and made the decision to quit at about the age of 38. This was easier said than done. I remember her trying on her own many times, with no success and then something interesting happened.
It’s a well-known fact that happiness leads to better health. And keep in mind….happiness is a choice, NOT a consequence. Although we all have things in life that may bring us occasional disappointment and sadness, the trick is to consciously make the decision to find happiness again, instead of taking the road to depression.
What you say repeatedly, and how they view themselves, can turn into a self-fulfilling prophecy!
When was the last time you heard a parent describe their toddler/child (outloud) as being “shy” or “timid” or “wild and uncontrollable”, etc. All toddlers and young children can have bouts of being “shy” for instance, or act crazy on occasion, but watch what you start saying about them and be careful it doesn’t become a “habitual” description. Believe it or not, just as negative “self-talk” can cause us difficulties and barriers in our own lives, describing a child over and over in a particular way….can actually lead them to “becoming” that way….whether it’s a good or bad personality trait! Because what you believe you are…..YOU ARE!
Does this sound and look like you or someone you know? Do you feel sleepy and lack energy during the day, and once you go to bed you can’t seem to sleep, or you wake up in the middle of the night and can’t fall BACK asleep? Or you just can’t turn your brain off or you simply can’t relax enough to fall asleep?